The Talk

I’ve recently entered a new relationship – for lack of a better term – and things are going well. The attraction is strong, we laugh a lot, and simply have a good time with each other. Because things are going so smoothly, I have been reluctant to change anything, and am doing my best to avoid any grandiose conversations of what we are and where this is going. However, even in our mutual attempt at keeping things light, at times we’ve stumbled into the familiar territory of the all too familiar “definitive” conversation.

your last relationship

In my recent experience, I have come to the realization that my prior relationship always somehow structures my attitude about what I’m currently seeking. It’s both a simple concept and often misconstrued phenomenon. If you were with a clinger, you will probably naturally gravitate toward someone who is more independent. And vice versa, the flighty and emotionally unavailable partner may will likely give way to someone a little more dependent in a relationship. It seems that we look to seek something new whether consciously or not. Even if things ended well with someone and you’re not actively trying to meet a new type of person, then just what makes a new person refreshing? Obviously, nobody wants a carbon copy of a past lover— might as well just die with your memories at that point. In this piece, I will use my own experience as a point of departure for constructively considering a past relationship in the context of a current or future one.

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